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Phillipians 4 vs 8: Finally brothers & Sisters, whatever is true, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatsoever is admirable. If anything is excellent or praise worthy think about those things KJV
Romans 12 vs 19 Never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written "Vengeance is mine". I will repay says the Lord! ESV
"Bible is always right", is not just a glorified statement by theologians but the truth, anything the bible admonishes us to do or avoid, whether we understand it or not it is for our own good. On the long run it will help us.
In this topic, we carefully summarized and analyzed the psychologist research and discovered how true this is, from the physical point of view.
The Bible was not elaborate on the topic but it summed it up and dropped the piece of advice for us.
Trust the Bible whether elaborate or not. Read on....
The Psychology of Revenge
Life is a journey filled with myriads of emotions, happiness, sorrow, love, betrayal and growth, among this is the most profound experiences of being hurt by orders, whether it is friend who turned their back or loved one who broke your heart or a stranger whose action left a scar, the pain can be overwhelming.
When we are hurt the immediate reaction is anger with desire to seek revenge.
So what is the best revenge when someone hurts you.?
What is Revenge? It is often a way to balance the scale or to make the person feel the pain.
In movies, it is glorified as an act of justice that asserts dominance and settles scores.
However in real life the consequences can be far more complex and damaging instead of healing wounds, it deepens them, instead of closure we are trapped into a cycle of negativity and regret.
You must understand the psychology of HURT
So what is the best revenge? Is it retaliation, confrontation. To answer this we must first understand the true nature of hurt. When someone hurts you, he plants the seed of pain in your heart, the seed can grow into bitterness, resentment, hatred it consumes your energy and prevents you from moving forward. The person may continue living his life while you remain under the shackles of anger. In this scenario who truly wins is not you, the best revenge is not to cause harm to the person, but reclaiming your power and balance, you must choose to rise above the pain, becoming the best version of yourself not for them but for you, by doing so you transform the pain into strength and betrayal into motivation. Every seed of pain planted in your heart must be uprooted in Jesus name
Don't allow their actions define your present
The best revenge is living a life so meaningful that it renders the actions of those who hurt you insignificant. One way to achieve this is through forgiveness. Forgiveness is condoning or excusing one’s behavior, but through forgiveness is about freeing yourself and letting go of the anger and resentment. It doesn’t mean forgetting what they did, it simply means you choosing not to let their actions define your present or future. It shifts focus from you , the energy that consumes you is redirected towards something uplifting. It allows you to find peace within yourself which is far more valuable than any retaliation. Focusing on personal gain and rising above challenges life throws at you.
Focus on Growth (Career, Character, otherwise)
Channel your energy into your skills and building a life that binds your values and aspirations. The actions of those who try to bring you down will pale in comparison to your achievement. Personal growth is not all about internal freedom, it is about cultivating resilience, love and peace. It is not determined by how others treat you but how you treat yourself , when you focus on yourself and achievements, your life (adding more feathers to your cap) becomes fulfilling and joyful. When you add more achievements to your life, career, Skills etc you become the best version of yourself. The change and enlightenment it did to you brings more light to your soul and opens more doors for you. A better you emerges!, different from the one your old acquaintances knew.
Remain Positive and don't Isolate Yourself.
Who hurt you becomes irrelevant, their actions loose power over you. You have chosen to rise above them. Another aspect is to surround yourself with positivity. The pain caused by others can make us cynical or distrustful. Closing yourself off to the world isolates you and magnify the hurt. Do the following.
Seek out people who uplifts & Inspire you, Build relationship based on trust and respect.Surround yourself with those who appreciate your worth, and contribute to your happiness. Practice gratitude, gratitude shifts your focus from what you have lost to what you have.
Life is far bigger than the actions of few individuals, life of integrity and kindness is another form of revenge.
If someone hurts it can be tempting to stoop to their level, doing so makes you like them instead choose to rise above that level.
Choose to Uphold your values
Treat people with respect even though they don’t deserve it, this doesn’t mean you allow yourself to become dormant but you choose to uphold your value regardless of how others treat you, doing so you set an example of strength and dignity. It is far more impactful than any act of revenge, our struggles lead us to our greatest strength.
Help others with your Experience
When you use your experience to help others you transform pain to something meaningful, whether it is to support someone going through similar situation or turning your experience into a source of hope and healing for others, is a powerful way to rise above it.it
Learn to take back Power
Living in the present is another tool. Living in the past allow their action to dictate your choice or what happens to you, But when you focus on your present you take back that power, you remind yourself that the past is behind you what matters now is that your living in the present, you create life that is rich with experience, connections and joy. Achieve emotional freedom, you are no longer controlled by the actions or opinions of others, it means you have the strength to walk away from toxic relationship the freedom to stand for yourself.
Your Peace of MInd is the best
It means you value your peace of mind more than temporary satisfaction of retaliation. Emotional freedom is the ultimate form of empowerment, you live life in your own term. Ultimate form of revenge is about healing yourself. It is about transforming pain into strength, those who hurt you fade into insignificance, to rise above, to forgive, to grow and to thrive. The greatest revenge is not what you do to others but who you become despite them
